PURE LOVE

“Stephanie”, sixty-six, was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease eight years ago.  She lives with her husband, “Stan”.  As Stephanie’s needs increased, Stan retired early in order to take care of her.  Funds are limited, but Stan does not want her to be anywhere else but home.   They cannot afford caregivers, but so do need help.  

Stephanie no longer speaks, but mumbles words.  Her words make no sense, but Stan so lovingly knows what she needs or wants.  It is so beautiful at how attentive he is to her.  His primary focus is caring for her.  His soft words to her, along with his gentle touching her to help, is so amazing. 

When speaking with him about Stephanie, I got goosebumps as could so deeply feel his love for her.  They live in a small one-bedroom apartment without out much glitter, but I so strongly believe they are millionaires when it comes to love and devotion. 

Stephanie doesn’t quality for hospice, but we will make sure her doctor gives us a Palliative Care referral for the needed support.  I wish our agency could offer more.  Stan does appreciate any help that comes along.  Blessings to him for always. 

ADDENDUM: A few days after this visit, I went back with our nurse to admit Stephanie to our Palliative Care program. 

PURE LOVE

 

He called on us to make a visit.

He wanted to hear all about hospice.

He knows he needs much more help.

“Please, what can you do for us?”

 

She was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease

when she was only fifty-eight.

Her disease has progressed dramatically

over the course of these past eight years.

 

Her gait is so wobbly; she needs him by her side.

She no longer speaks, but mumbles.

Her confusion continues to increase,

but he lovingly still knows what she needs.

 

They have four children; who don’t help much.

One is estranged; another committed suicide;

while two others “just don’t understand”.

The two of them are so truly alone.

 

Recently he’s been to the Emergency Room twice

as his stress and anxiety has intensified.

They can’t afford hired caregivers;

while he strongly opposes putting her in a home.

 

When I asked him, “What keeps you going?”

He answered softly with such pure love,

that came from the deepest part of his heart,

“My will,

               My love.”