PRACTICAL

  

“Laura” and “Jim” have been married for many years.  Both have the same straight-forward personality.      Without blaming each other, each will state their truth, no matter what.   It is obvious how much they care and love each other as they respect each other’s words.   

The good, the bad and the ugly were all stated in a straight-forward way.  It has always worked well for them.   

 

PS.  I gave Jim a call today as Laura died in the early morning hours following our visit.  Jim said that he was sitting by her side when she called his name and then took her final breath.  Jim spoke about the love he is receiving from his family.  Again, he is looking at life in a positive way.  He knew she was ready to go, and he has comfort knowing she is now at peace. 

PRACTICAL 

 

She has had heart failure for many years. 

Her gait is now wobbly due to recent weakness. 

Lately she has become more short of breath. 

When the nurse recommended oxygen today; 

                              she strongly stated, “No!” 

 

She is real; she is practical; she states her truth. 

When asked how she is coping with it all, we heard, 

“I want it to be over. 

                              I am done”. 

 

They have been married for almost 62 years. 

She summed up her marriage by stating, 

“We are two chiefs here; not useful.” 

Each marriage needs one chief and one Indian”. 

 

I tease folks and say the only thing to remember is to call us. 

It helps us when they call about needs or changes. 

The second time I said it today, I heard him kindly say, 

“I heard you say that before.  I did remember.” 

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He also speaks his truth, but with a positive attitude. 

When I asked him what helps him cope, he easily stated,  

“Every day is a holiday.  

                               Every feast is a bouquet.” 

 

Being positive gives him support  

as when I was leaving, 

 I heard him say in a very practical way, 

                              “Keep smiling.”