“Jeff”, thirty-seven, suffers from Liver Cancer that has already metastasized. He was diagnosed just four months ago. Since that time, he has lost 75 pounds. He says he has a good appetite, but his weight keeps declining. He is very weak and unable to walk. He is sleeping more at night along with taking several naps during the day. His decline is noticeable, but he takes it all in stride. He has had a challenging life but easily accepts whatever comes his way. When I asked him about any concerns or fears, he stated, “I have strong Christian beliefs. I know my mother will be there waiting for me”. Jeff is coping in a way that totally works for him. Way to go!
ADDENDUM: Jeff and his wife, “Missy”, were married ten days later by our hospice chaplain. Best wishes and congratulations to both of you.
ANOTHER NORMAL DAY
He’s been in prison for almost two years
while informing us that he had stolen a car.
He was given Compassionate Release today
as is now terminal with liver disease.
He was diagnosed just four months ago;
and his cancer has already spread.
There is no treatment; there is no cure.
He is okay with it all as says, “I feel good”.
He spoke about his incarnation in a low-key mode.
He had a routine; he had unremarkable days
One knew his needs were few, when he asked;
“Where can I get a cigarette?”
His fiancée is driving down to make a visit.
She has a long, three-hour drive.
Their plan is to get married today.
He asked if I could help to arrange this event.
I texted our hospice chaplain, who stepped right in.
The fiancée needs to go to the clerk's office tomorrow
to pick up a packet for a marriage license.
Unfortunately, their wedding cannot happen today.
He is, not surprisingly, accepting this with ease.
His life is not typical for most of us,
but to him, this is just
another normal day.
