“Bonnie” called me yesterday to get information about hospice support. Her mother, “Julie”, was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease four years ago. Bonnie shared stories about Mom’s aggression, hurtful words, and behavior. Bonnie and I spoke for over forty-five minutes in that call. I counseled her on self-care while actively listening to what she was telling me.
It was a late afternoon admission. I normally don’t attend the late admissions, but I personally had to meet Bonnie. She so lovingly spoke about her twelve-year-old son. She gave him unconditional love. I assured her that she learned about love from someone other than her mother. She then shared a story about the mother of the eight children with whom she babysat. I told Bonnie today that she broke the cycle of aggression and negativity as she was given a “Mom’s” love from the eight children’s mom.
My spirit led me to meet up with Bonnie. She has so many loving gifts that she shares. It was an honor to meet her.
NEED A MOM
She called me yesterday
asking about hospice for her mom.
“Mom suffers from Alzheimer’s Disease.
I so want her placed in a facility.”
“Her behavior is way out of control.
She is emotionally and physically violent.
She verbally hurts everyone.
She is not a kind person at all.”
“Grandma was also mean to my mother;
so, my mom never learned how to love.
I babysat for a mother of eight.
She loved me like a mom would.
She taught me unconditional love.”
It was a late hospice admission today,
but I had to be there to support the daughter.
She has a young son, whom she so dearly loves.
I needed to go out and give her a warm hug.
Mom showed aggression in her words.
Whatever the daughter said or shared,
Mom would continue to verbally attack back,
while wanting to assure me,” That is not true”.
I was drawn to be there this evening;
to give the daughter unconditional support.
I was driven by my heart to comfort her naturally
as it was I,
who needed to be a mom.
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