A WIFE

I made a call to "Adam", to offer condolences and support. Adam's wife died four days ago after being diagnosed with cancer only two months prior. Adam sadly shared that the both of them always thought he would die first as he was fifteen years older than she.

Adam said that his wife had a slow, continuous decline since her diagnosis, although the day before she died, it came on suddenly. He spoke of how the day she died, they were sitting on the couch in the family room. She was lying in his arms when she quietly took her last breath.

While Adam shared his story, he focused more on the process leading up to death and the sadness associated with it all. I told Adam what struck my heart so deeply was the gifts he and his wife gave to each other. He, allowing her the perfect moment to go; and she letting go while resting on his shoulder.

I added that, although sad, it was the most loving, spiritual part of it all. That moment emphasized the beauty of their relationship that will forever hold true.


A WIFE　

He was fifteen years older than her,
but their love so deeply strong.
He always thought he would go first,
whereby she would have years alone.

Both were shocked when she was diagnosed;
only two short months ago.
Her decline was steady and slow.
Both knew she didn't have long.

On Saturday, she stopped talking.
A rapid decline from the day before.
By Sunday, she was barely awake;
not responding much at all.

Sunday evening they sat together on the couch
with the television set turned down low.
He wanted to carry her to bed,
but didn't have the strength to do so.

He spoke with the hospice night nurse,
who called the Fire Department Lift Team.
The Fire Fighters and Paramedics came quickly;
informing him she was already gone.

He allowed her to die peacefully in his arms;
while she gave him a gift of letting go.
She was still taking care of her husband,
as will continue and forevermore
          always be his wife.