AND SO

The hospice nurse and I went out to meet "Paula" and her son, "Matt", to admit her to our hospice program. Prior to meeting her, I noticed on her medical records that we were the same age. She was born three months after me. It does catch my attention as it immediately makes me feel so grateful for my health.

Paula was diagnosed only five months ago. Her chemotherapy was not affective at all. It left her weak and nauseas. The doctors offered more chemotherapy, but Paula strongly felt that it would only make her sicker. She was looking at quality of life; not quantity. Paula’s son, Matt, was a strong advocate wanting to follow his mother’s wishes.

Paula was a “straight-shooter” . She always spoke her truth in a kind and supportive way. She was so grateful for her two children. There was a lot of love in her family. She was so aware of the importance of love in one’s life. She accepted her terminal diagnosis and strongly wanted to discuss all of her options with the hospice nurse and I. She would ask us direct questions wanting our truth. One’s terminal journey is so unique to each individual. There are so many questions with no direct answer.

Meeting Paula made me feel so grateful for what I have in my life. None of us know when our last day here on earth will be. Paula was a wonderful teacher to us all in appreciating each day and living your best life with all that you have. It isn’t any more complicated than that.


AND SO　

She's lived many decades.
Born in the year between two wars.
Growing up with Elvis and Rock & Roll.
          And so have I.

She married and has two children.
Both caring and devoted to her.
She embraces her children's love.
          And so do I.

She finds the good in others,
valuing all that she has.
Coping with life's stressors as they arrive.
          And so do I.

She was diagnosed five months ago with cancer.
Chemotherapy did not help at all.
Her cancer is spreading; leaving her weak.
She knows her time is short.

She is a realist; wanting to know the truth.
She appreciates honesty from others
as it helps her understand them more.
          And so do I.

Our similarities drew her to me;
but "There for but the grace of God, go I."
I felt empathy, support and compassion.
Hopefully receiving them;
          and so did she.