WANT HIM HOME

"Richard", fifty-two, was diagnosed with brain cancer two months ago. The doctors tried many treatment procedures with no positive outcomes. Richard is now in the hospital ICU and unresponsive. Richard's three siblings, are by his side. They have told the hospital staff that they want to take their brother home.

There was concern that Richard may not be strong enough to survive an ambulance ride home. The hospital staff heard what the family was saying and totally supported them in doing what needed to be done for Richard to be able to go home.

I was asked by hospice to meet with the family to discuss the positives and negatives that could occur with this plan. Meeting with the three siblings at the hospital touched my heart so deeply. Their total focus was on their brother and his wishes. It was so beautiful. I spoke of the many options that may occur; one being Richard may die prior to discharge or on the journey home. The family were aware and understood, but having their brother home was their foremost objective. They were so focused on fulfilling their brother's final wish.

I was saddened to hear their story, but my heart was also touched so deeply by their love for their brother. I was so determined to do what I could do to help get their brother home. I encouraged the siblings to inform Richard to hang in there as he will be home tomorrow. The hospice nurse and I will be at Richards home tomorrow morning waiting for his arrival. I know he will let go when it is right for him. I so hope he does make it home. 

ADDENDUM: Richard was safely discharged to home. He died peacefully the following morning with his family at the bedside.


WANT HIM HOME　

A recent cancer diagnosis
has left him hospitalized for weeks.
No treatment was effective.
He's just been getting worse.

He is now minimally responsive,
but knows his family is all around.
He likely has only a few days at most.
          They just want him home.

I met with his family and three nurses today
in a private space near his room.
We spoke of his terminal prognosis
and options on how to safely get him home.

They spoke with their hearts about their brother,
while loving him completely with their souls.
The truly know what his wishes would be;
          "We just want him home."

Hearing their story left me feeling so terribly sad.
Wanting to do what I could do to support this family.
But on the other hand, their love was truly amazing
embracing me with pure beauty.

He will be discharged to home tomorrow morning.
We will be there when he arrives
offering all of them comfort and support.
But most important, we'll be able to say,
          "Welcome home."