TO KNOW HER

"Deb", sixty-two, was diagnosed with cancer one year ago. Deb has one daughter, "Jan", who lives nearby. Jan and her mother have always been "best friends" and spend a lot of time together. Deb has lived in the same small town her entire life. She has a multitude of friends; many over a lifetime. Deb also is very close with her two sisters and several cousins.

Deb had been undergoing treatment for her cancer this past year. Two weeks ago, the doctors wanted to try a new chemotherapy, but after one treatment, Deb became weak and extremely ill. It was at that moment, Deb said she had enough and was ready to go. Deb has a strong Christian faith in God and the afterlife. She has no fears about dying.

Deb's daughter called late yesterday to initiate the hospice referral. Deb shared that her mother said that she would be gone before the week was out. The hospice nurse and I were able to admit Deb to hospice today. Deb's daughter and good friend, "Sandy" met us at the home. Deb was in bed and, due to her weakness, did not participate in the admission visit.

The family said that Deb was so weak and eating very little. Prior to sitting down and talking with Jan and Sandy, I went to meet with Deb. Deb was not interested in participating in the visit due to her weakness. I asked her about any fears and she said, "I am through here; I am done". With Deb's strong Christian faith, she believes that where she is going will be perfect for her.

During the ninety minutes the nurse and I were in the home, the doorbell did not stop ringing. So many people were dropping in to say goodbye. Deb's decline has been swift and so many needed to see Deb one more time.

I truly believe in Karma and seeing so many friendly, loving people coming and going, reflected all of them. In addition, it reflected Deb as well. I believe Like attracts Like and what goes around comes around. The love Deb gave out in her life, was reflected by all of the folks who were present. We all should have such an amazing legacy.

TO KNOW HER
　
Her time is near.
She's ready; she is done.
A few words only between us.
Not enough time to know her.

Her decline has been rapid.
It caught most off guard.
Friends and family dropping in
wanting to see her one more time.

There are many who adore her.
They can't say enough about her.
Her kindness; her love for them.
Coming to say one final goodbye.

Their presence does reflect who they are,
but it also reflects her.
The Law of Attraction; like attracts like.
Her Karma says it all.

Her time is near.
She's ready; she is done.
A few words only between us.
More than enough time
          to get to know her.