LIVING THEIR FAITH

“John”, sixty years old, suffers from brain cancer. John lives with “Nina, his wife of thirty-one years. They have two adult children and many extended family members living nearby. John’s family is very devout in their faith. Their daughter, “Shawna”, twenty-five, lives on the third level of their home, while their son, “John, Jr”, thirty, lives close by. John’s elderly parents and ninety-nine year old Grandmother live about two miles away.

John’s cancer was discovered two years ago after he suffered a seizure. It was then that John had an “out-of-body” experience. That event squashed any fear that John had about dying. John and his family’s strong Christian belief give them comfort, support and peace. This family not only talks their faith, but it is so obvious by their kindness to others, that they also live their faith.

John came onto hospice eight days ago due to a sudden decline over a two week period. All thought that John would die within days. He is hanging on as has had a few short awake and alert moments, although mostly spends his days sleeping. He is minimally responsive to his family and eating very little. John’s family has rallied to give their love and support. The family’s minister calls daily to check in. It is this family’s deep devotion that carries them through.

The moment one walks into the family’s home, you feel the love. Last week when I went out for the first time to visit, I stepped into John’s bedroom to check on him. Shawna was caressing her father’s face in such a loving, endearing way, while whispering soft words to him. I felt I was witnessing a miracle as what I saw was pure, unconditional love from a daughter to her father. John has taught his children well. Their kindness and love reaches out to all.

The family is an inspiration to all who meet them. I have visited twice, and each time, there is extended family visiting for support. They all pitch in and do what they have to do to help each other. John and Nina are role models for love, faith and kindness. It is such a reminder of what is so right, and, in addition, it serves us all so well.


LIVING THEIR FAITH

　

He has been the patriarch of the family.
He’s the one they’ve turned to for guidance.
He has always been there for everyone.
His leadership; his faith; a testimony to all.

Soon, family dynamics are about to change.
They all will have to find their own way.
He no longer will be around like before.
His courageous battle is nearing the end.

Getting such a diagnosis
had to have been quite a shock.
But an “out-of-body” experience
increased his faith while diminishing any fear.

He is leaving behind an elderly grandmother.
His parents thought they would go first.
The family’s strong, devout faith keeps them going.
They know it is all in God’s hands.

His grandmother visited him the other day.
Still spry and young at ninety-nine.
She questioned, “Why him and not me?”
Suddenly the answer was loud and clear.

“I am here so that I can pray for him”.
Acceptance.
          Devotion.
                    Faith.