WHAT IS

Seven days ago, “Vickie”, sixty-five, was diagnosed with cancer that has already metastasized to her brain.  Vickie has been healthy all of her life until now.  Her upbeat personality surprised me as this past week, she has dramatically declined.  Vickie came to America twenty-five years ago from a war-torn country.  She appreciates America so much more because of her knowing the hardship that can come from that type of living situation. 

Vickie has such a positive attitude about life.  Seeing the good in life, while not questioning why bad can also happen.  Vickie has a strong group of friends that surround her. She spoke so lovingly about that support. 

Being just seven days from diagnosis, most of us need a lot more time to come to terms with a terminal diagnosis.  Vickie is very realistic and spoke about options that are available in California; such as the End-of-Life Option Act.  When asking about her code status wishes, she strongly stated she wanted her disease to run its natural course. 

I am so amazed by her graciousness and natural acceptance of what is so recently happening.  She is surely, one of the most beautiful souls I have met.

WHAT IS 

 

“I’ve had a great life

surrounded by those who love me.

Traveling; singing; playing my cello;

while always having good health.”

 

She is in her mid-sixties;

with a positive and appreciative personality.

One week ago, though, she was told,

“It is cancer that has now spread”.

 

Her world has since dramatically changed.

She has had a sudden, rapid decline.

She has increased pain “everywhere”.

Due to weakness, she spends more time in bed.

 

She is now losing weight

as can no longer eat due to nausea. 

She is becoming more dependent,

but in spite of it all, she remains happy.

 

When asked if she had any fears; any concerns,

she genuinely stated, “It’s what is”.

She stays calm without questioning, “Why?”

“Life is on its own projected course”.

 

She strongly embraces her life;

valuing all that she has received.

Just meeting her, I am not surprised at all

of her natural ability to totally accept

                          What is.