THERE IS NO ANSWER

Quite often, when doing hospice work, we get asked questions about how much time does the patient have.  We have no answer as it is such a unique moment for us all.  During my hospice experience, I hear so many amazing stories about the timing of a person’s death.  I truly believe we all know when it is the time to let go; as families so frequently share these fascinating stories. 

I met “Matt” about one week ago.  I also met “Gene” three days ago.  Both men were active and engaging.  Yes, they needed help with many of their activities of daily living, but had personalities so full of life.   Both did not fear death based on their spiritual beliefs.  If they did, by chance, ask me about how much time they had left, I would have said, “There is truly no answer.  You will let go when the time is right for you.”

I cannot prove my beliefs, but no one can disprove it either.  We all believe what is right for us to believe.  One’s spiritual beliefs gives them comfort, whatever that belief may be.  I so very strongly believe that both of these men left at the perfect time for them to do so.   That thought, too, gives me much comfort.

THERE IS NO ANSWER 

 

We often get asked by patients,

“When will it be my time to go?”

Or, from families wanting to know,

“How much longer does he have?”

 

They are wanting an exact time or date,

but there is no precise answer anyone can give.

They want to be prepared; to be ready.

Quite often, we are just as surprised as they are.

 

I met him about one week ago.

He has outlived his doctor’s expectations.

His wisdom amazed and touched my heart.

He was sitting up in his recliner, full of life.

 

He too, was full of life and joy.

He was independent one week ago.

Now he is definitely much weaker,

but still embracing life and so engaging.

 

I met both of these men this past week.

If asked, I would guess many weeks left for sure.

I was so surprised this morning to hear,

both have died over the weekend.

 

I so believe, both let go at their exact time to do so.

They spiritually were guided to know when to leave.

I feel that their work here on Earth was likely complete.

Then again, there truly is

                                   no answer.