HOW WE COPE

We are all individuals and cope so uniquely when facing a difficult situation.  I believe our search for what gives us comfort begins at childhood.  Life does throw a curve ball now and then to all of us.  How we cope is so individual; so unique.  

It is a blessing to find what works and to be able to utilize that support as needed.  When this patient’s husband told me that he was still doing what he loved, it gave me hope that it can be an option for any of us who so choose what helps them enjoy their life.  My work so gives me peace and comfort.  Each day, I receive a thousand-fold of what I give.  It doesn’t get any better than that.  I am so blessed.

HOW WE COPE 

 

Finding how to cope, begins with childhood.

When experiencing a difficult time,

we all look for ways to find comfort;

to find resolution; to find some relief.

 

As a hospice social worker,

I meet so many who are grieving.

A large part of my role and support

is to counsel on grief and the emotions of loss.

 

I will ask, “What helps you cope?”

I often hear some customary answers

such as “I exercise; I pray;

                    I talk to my best girlfriend.”

 

She and her husband are 91 years old.

She was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s years ago.

She is now in a steep decline;

not knowing family; forgetting how to eat.

 

When I spoke with him about her downturn;

his first words were “I am so sad.

We will be married 70 years next month.

It was to be a special day to celebrate”.

 

When I asked him about how he copes,

his answer surprised me and gave me hope.

“I am a plumber and am still working.

It gives me joy; it gives me comfort”.

 

I can so relate to what he told me.

I too, am still doing a job that I totally enjoy.

Even though I am the oldest one at hospice,

I am doing what I so truly love.

And yes, it gives me joy; it gives me comfort.