TEQUILA

“Jason”, fifty-four years old, was diagnosed with liver disease just a few months ago.  Jason truthfully told us that he has been drinking a full bottle of Tequila for decades.  Jason was able to work until his recent diagnosis.  Jason is so real and tells his truth.  He has no regrets or concerns.  He has accepted his fate without any worries stating, “It is what it is”. 

Jason has been married to his wife, Sheila, for thirty-one years.  They have one son who lives locally, but Sheila is hesitant to ask her son for help stating, “He is so busy working”.  As Jason’s decline has been pretty rapid, it is putting more responsibility on Sheila.  She spoke about being “overwhelmed”, but is resistant to ask family or friends for help.  

During our visit, we spoke a lot about Jason’s health concerns and needs, but the last part of the visit was so beautiful.  Jason and Sheila spoke about their love for each other.  Their faces would light up as they spoke about their pure, unconditional love.  In addition, they told us some pretty cute and funny stories about their life together.  

They are a perfect example of what really is important in life for all of us.  If one has love, it so amazingly helps all of us to cope.  Loss is tremendously difficult and emotions do run high, but with love in the picture, the grief may become a bit lighter.  I wish Jason and Sheila the best.  I also want to thank them for welcoming us into their home while sharing their life with us. 

TEQUILA

 

He’s been drinking heavily for years.

“One bottle of Tequila a day”.

His body has lost the battle

as two months ago he heard;

                    Cirrhosis of the Liver.

 

He has declined rapidly since that time.

He is so weak; he needs a walker.

He is eating and drinking a minimal amount.

He is realistic and has easily accepted it all.

 

His focus is not on himself, but his wife

as he was just told, “Likely only a few months”.

He wants to make sure she will be okay.

His love for her is so real; so deep.

 

She wants him to eat more; drink some water,

but he just doesn’t want any of it.

He is ready to go, but she is tightly holding on.

She is appropriately not ready for him to die.

 

He tells us, “She is beautiful; she is wonderful;”

while she lovingly will say the same about him.

There is no criticism; no excuses;

                    no shame.

 

It is about the best gift of all;

pure unconditional love.

Nothing more; nothing less.

It just doesn’t get any better than that.