I'M OKAY

“John”, fifty-one years old, was diagnosed with cancer ten years ago.  He has undergone multiple chemotherapy and radiation treatments over the years.  He was managing pretty well until a recent sudden decline.  John lives with his wife, “Penny”.  They have known each other for years as met in high school.  

We admitted John to our hospice program two days ago.  Because I wasn’t available to be with the hospice nurse during the admission, I called Penny yesterday to check-in and explain the social work role and supports.  It was then she spoke about John’s sudden decline.  She informed me that he had not eaten or drank anything for two days.  He was bedridden and unresponsive.  

She was so realistic regarding his poor prognosis aware that he likely had only a few days at most to live.  Penny has a tremendous faith in God and the afterlife.  She spoke openly about death and dying saying, “It is always in God’s hands.  It is a part of life.” 

I was so moved by how she phrased her emotions and how much support and comfort she received from her strong faith.  She has a tremendous support network of family and friends.  She will reach out as needed.  I truly believe that she will be okay.  God bless you Penny. 

I’M OKAY

He’s been fighting his cancer for years.

Suddenly, all has rapidly changed.

He stopped eating two days ago.

Now, bedridden; unresponsive; imminent.

 

I spoke with her yesterday to check-in.

She is realistic knowing his time is close.

She easily verbalized her emotions, her grief.

“We talked all about it;

               we cried all about it”.

 

Two hours later, he was gone.

She was sitting by his side, holding his hand.

“I have no unfinished business with him.

               I will see him again.”

 

She has a very strong Christian faith.

It gives her peace; it gives her hope.

She lost four relatives five years ago.

She knows they will always be together

in love; in harmony; in heaven.

 

I called her again today to offer comfort,

condolences and support.

When asked how she is coping, she shared

“It is hard, but I have lots of faith.”

 

“Dying is an intimate thing.

We were able to do it together.

I know it won’t be easy; I will grieve.

But truly I can honestly say,

               “I am okay”.