A THOUSAND FOLD

I admitted a new patient to hospice today. The patient was in her mid-eighties and had suffered from cardiac disease for many years. She is now unresponsive and imminent with death likely within hours to a few days.

I met with her husband, her son and her daughter to inform them about hospice and the support we are able to give to all of them. Part of my role as the Admission Social Worker, is to explain the role of each member of the hospice team. As I was explaining the chaplain role, I often like to elaborate on how their support is spiritual. So often folks will feel a chaplain will come in and only read the bible to the patient.

I will clarify that yes, religion is spiritual, but spirituality is so much more. It is one's philosophy and beliefs about life. Several years ago, a male patient shared that his spirituality was his motorcycle and I believed him. I added that our chaplain will offer spiritual support as defined by the patient and the family.

It was then that the patient's son shared those most beautiful words to me. This is a prime example of why I continue to do the hospice work that I do. It is not work, but a life's calling for me. This family so validated why I, and my colleagues, continue to do hospice. The benefits are so amazing.

ADDENDUM: Back at the office, I heard that the patent died peacefully, with the family at the bedside, two hours after I left. I wish them all peace.


A THOUSAND FOLD

As hospice workers,
we often get asked,
"How can you do,
          what you do?"

Walking along next to others
who are facing an emotional ordeal,
we often hear how much we have helped.
Giving it back to us a thousand fold.

Today's family was so inspiring.
Coping, grieving, loving, realistic.
Easily verbalizing their emotions and grief.
Embracing the blessings that are still around.

His wife, their mother.
Imminent, unresponsive.
Likely hours to only a few days.
Giving her permission to go,
as they know she is going to a better place.

I spoke about our hospice team
and the support we all can give;
when he shared the most beautiful words to me,
"You are giving us all that we need."

"You are listening to us.
You are hearing what we have to say.
You are doing what we all so deeply need.
We cannot thank you enough."

I had tears when I heard his words.
They are struggling with such a major loss,
but still able to share the kindness of their hearts.
Thanking me for just being there.

Giving it back to me
          A Thousand Fold.