HUMOR

"Bette", eighty-three, was diagnosed a few months ago with liver cancer. Bette has been in a decline since the diagnosis. For years, she lived alone and able to handle all of her daily needs. With the increasing symptoms, Bette needed a lot more help. So a few weeks ago, Bette moved in with her daughter, "Kendra".

Bette walks slowly using a front wheeled walker. She has a poor appetite and is eating very little. Because of that, she is also losing weight. Her biggest complaint is weakness. Bette now needs someone nearby when she is up and about as she is at risk for falling.

The hospice nurse and I went out this morning to admit Bette to our program. Bette and Kendra teased each other so lovingly. It was cute and funny in a delightful way. They had us both laughing so hard at times. Bette denied any fears or concerns about her terminal prognosis. She has a strong Christian faith and stated, "I know where I am going." Kendra stated that her mother recently told her that she is ready to go to heaven.

What is helping this family cope is their sense of humor. Humor lightens their load and takes the edge off of the stressful situation. Bette's journey will be what it will be, but I know she will continue to tease and laugh along the way.


HUMOR

During the course of my day
I observe many sad moments.
Folks learn to cope in whatever way that works.
More often that not, it is humor.

She had been so independent her entire life.
She was used to doing anything she chose.
Her recent diagnosis of cancer changed all that.
She can no longer live alone.

She moved in with her daughter for help.
It has worked out well for each of them.
They both share how they are best friends;
teasing each other and laughing as they go.

I asked her how long she had been divorced.
She crinkled up her face with a twinkle in her eye,
"It has been forty years.
These are the best years of my life!"

Recently she has lost so much.
Her independence; her ability to get around.
But one thing, I know, she will always have;
and never let go,
          her wonderful sense
                   of humor.