HIS OBITUARY

My friend Ray was diagnosed three months ago with bile duct cancer. He has been through radiation and chemotherapy without much success. He is not eating much at all and has lost over forty pounds during this time. He is now on hospice as he is so weak and is declining quickly.

Judy, his wife, is a very close friend. We have talked weekly on the phone for years as they live in another state. It is our way of staying in touch. Judy and Ray have lots of supportive family and friends who have been visiting. I will be visiting in two weeks for three days. I have been looking forward to the trip as I have this strong need to give my friends a huge hug.

As Judy and I were talking tonight on the phone, she asked me if I would write Ray's obituary while I was visiting. I instantly had tears as I felt so honored to be asked. But then, I felt a huge responsibility as I was wondering if I was up to the task. I have known Ray for one-third of his life and realize that there is a lot about him that I just don't know. My plan is to sit down and talk with him about his childhood, his dreams, his legacy.

I know Judy trusts me to be able to do this. I pray I don't let her down.


HIS OBITUARY

She said she had something to ask me.
She says its been on her mind.
She asked me to write his obituary.
The one thing she just cannot do.

I told her that I would be honored.
I told her that I was deeply moved.
I will do my best to document his life
in the fitting way he so truly deserves.

What can one say in a few paragraphs
that captures the years of his life?
He's a husband, a father, a hard working man.
He also is an amazing friend.

He is proud of his classic GTO.
He's won "Best in Show" many times.
He'll always have chips and salsa nearby
while cheering on his Miami team.

It's clear he'll be missed by many.
Probably more than I'll ever know.
He's leaving an amazing mark while here.
I hope I can capture it all.