‘Ingrid”, ninety-six, has been on our Palliative Care program for almost one year. Part of the benefit of being on Palliative Care is that the staff also assess when a patient becomes eligible for hospice care. Ingrid had been stable for quite a while. She lived alone and was able to manage her needs. Her decline came quickly. So fortunately, her nephew was able to be with her the last 36 hours of her life. What a beautiful gift they each gave and received.
HER WAY
She only ever had to worry about herself
as she is single; with no children around.
She typically was the one in charge.
Living her life; doing her life; her way.
Her lifestyle truly worked for her;
as one month ago, she turned ninety-six.
She has been healthy most of those years,
but recently, her body is just wearing out.
She’s become a bit weaker; less active;
needing assistance with daily tasks.
Her nephew comes around to help a lot.
The two of them have always been close.
This past week, so much has changed.
Physical and cognitive decline has hit hard.
She no longer is safe to be home alone.
It appears that her time is now here.
“I was alone with her the last 36 hours.
I prayed with her and said the rosary.
A priest came for the Last Rites.
It was quality time; it was peaceful.”
While softly giggling, he lovingly shared,
“My aunt would always loudly express her needs.
Her passing was the quietest time she ever spent.
I am so honored and blessed to have witnessed
her living and her dying;
her way.”
