Saturday, December 28, 2024

HER

 “Valerie”, eighty-five years old, was diagnosed with Breast Cancer three years ago.  Her cancer has spread leaving her weak.  Valeria has lived alone all of her life.  Due to her weakness, she was transferred to a Skilled Nursing Facility yesterday.  

Valerie was one of the most insightful souls I have met.  She definitely was my teacher today.  She taught me about the importance of being in the moment; along with focusing on the positives in her life.  All of us experience good along with bad at times.  But even in those situations, goodness will find a way to embrace those moments as well.   


HER 

 

After reading her medical records, 

it made me feel so sad for her. 

She is single and has no children. 

It also stated, no family; no friends. 

 

Her lawyer is her agent for health and finances. 

He is her emergency contact as well. 

She is eighty-seven years old and alone. 

“What helps her get through her day?” 

 

She spoke about her career as a nurse. 

Her face lit up while talking about her work. 

“This is my calling; my life; my joy”. 

While listening to her, I was thinking the same. 

 

“It was so hard when I could no longer work. 

My cancer had spread leaving me so weak. 

I have lived alone my entire life.  

Now being in this nursing home is meant to be.” 

 

She appreciated and embraced every moment. 

She amazingly stayed focused on the positives in her life. 

She thanked me for my support; my heart 

while I was thinking the same about her. 

 

 

She denied any fears at all 

as her strong Catholic faith helps her cope. 

“My life was rich; 

                   I want to see the Lord”. 

 

She has such tremendous inner strength. 

She truly lives her life her way. 

She focuses strongly on the positives. 

I am so not surprised to hear this insightfulness 

                   from her. 

Saturday, December 21, 2024

BODY LANGUAGE

BODY LANGUAGE


"Carlos", seventy-two, was diagnosed with Alzheimer's Disease just three years ago.  He has been married to "Rosa" for over forty years.  They have excellent family support.  Medicare requires that a nurse and a social worker be involved with each hospice case.  That nurse that accompanied me speaks Spanish, so the vast majority of the visit, I sat quietly nearby.  The nurse would update me about the patient and any needs the family might have, throughout the visit.

Being unable to understand the conversation, it became so obvious to me how powerful body language speaks.  What was so obvious was how much love embraced this couple.  


BODY LANGUAGE 

 

He was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s 

just a little over three years ago. 

He has had a recent, downward decline 

whereby he is weaker, sleeping more 

                   and eating less. 

 

The hospice nurse and I went out to admit him. 

She is bilingual; speaking English and Spanish alike. 

The couple spoke no English; only Spanish; 

                   so, my role was inactive a lot. 

 

I wanted to relay attentiveness and a caring soul; 

so, my eye contact was directly on both of them. 

Body language is often much louder than words. 

I truly wanted them to feel hospice’s support. 

 

He sat quietly, next to her on the couch, 

fiddling with the blanket that kept him warm. 

She would occasionally pat him and rub his arm. 

Her body language so clearly speaking her love. 

 

I knew she was sharing stories about his life 

as her face so beautifully glowed with joy. 

She was talking about him before he became ill; 

letting the nurse know who he so truly was. 

 

It didn’t matter that I did not know what she was saying 

as her motions; her gestures; her glowing face; 

showed her constant, deepest love for him. 

Body language, for always and forever, 

will continually speak one’s truth.