The hospice nurse and I went out to a Skilled Nursing Facility to admit “Reggie”, twenty-nine to hospice. Reggie suffers from cardiac and liver disease from using illegal drugs for so many years. His mother, “Tanya”, was present for the hospice admission. Tanya loved her son so deeply. You could feel it when she shared stories about his life; the good with the bad. She so accepted him for who he was.
Tanya amazed me as was realistic and accepting of what life has handed her. She has suffered four other deaths this past year; three family members and a good friend. Tanya was able to talk realistically about her grief from all of these losses.
When asked what helps her cope, she stated, “I find my
space; I find my time.” That, along with
her strong Christian faith, so helps her get through each day. She is a beautiful and loving mom. She saw life so simply; so clearly. Hospice’s goal is to support her as
well. The hospice nurse and I recognized
her as an amazing being; a beautiful soul.
A MOTHER’S LOVE
He is her middle child.
She shared stories about his life,
while simply just loving and accepting him.
“He has always been strong willed.”
He has made some poor choices along the way
that are now strongly impacting him.
His heart is failing; his lungs are weak,
but he has so accepted his plight.
She is realistic about his life;
while calmly sharing the good with the bad.
Appropriate tears flowed down her cheeks
as she spoke about the loss that will be.
She was with her sister when she died;
just two months ago at age fifty-six.
Her sister loved yellow butterflies
and moments after her death,
a yellow butterfly flew nearby.
She has strong beliefs about afterlife.
She knows her son, will too, come around.
But then it is still so out of order
as he has just recently turned twenty-nine.
She is aware of his life choices;
be they good or be they bad.
She so clearly accepts who his is
as absolutely gives him so what he needs.
Just simply, a mother’s heartfelt gift;
unconditional
love.
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