TO CRY

Frequently crying is a very helpful and powerful emotion.  It allows what is deep inside to come out.  So often, we do not truly know how we feel.  Crying is one physical response that can help clarify our feelings and emotions.   

Typically, myself included, if we cry, the first thing we say is, “I am so sorry”.  Crying is nothing to be sorry about.  It is a healthy reaction that can give us a clearer understanding of where we are emotionally.  

“John” was on hospice for such a short time.  He has a very large and extended family who were so beautifully by his side to support he and his wife, “Alice”.  I find it so beautiful and loving when I see families rally to support each other.  I will tell family members that they likely do not feel that they are doing anything when they are just sitting down nearby their loved one.  But then I deeply share, that by just being there, they are giving the gift of unconditional love; the best gift of all. 

The majority of patients and families I meet in hospice, are so loving and amazing.  It melts my heart.  I felt honored that Alice felt comfortable crying during our conversation.  I truly hope it help her to clarify her grief.  Thank you, Alice.

TO CRY 

 

He was on hospice for only ten days.

His decline was rapid and oh so quick.

His family gathered around and were with him

when he peacefully took his final breath.

 

I called to check in on his wife today;

offering comfort, condolences and support.

Her tears flowed immediately when I asked,

                    “How are you doing today?”

 

“It is not the best day ever.

I am unable to get any sleep.

There is so much I need to do.

This truly is not much fun”.

 

She spoke of her loving children.

“I need to take care of them.

They are grieving so hard like me.

I cannot let them see my cry”.

 

Through her tears, she shared his stories;

their family life; their travels; their love.

“He was suffering so much at the end;

we all knew when it was his time to let go.”

 

“I am normally calm and collected.

I thank you so much for listening to me.

I especially appreciate you allowing me

                    to cry at you.”