HER LIFE

I went out to admit, “Randy”, fifty-nine years old, to our hospice program.  Randy has suffered from cardiac disease for many, many years.  He had to go on disability over ten years ago due to his health.  He and his wife, “Angela”, live on forty beautiful acres outside of town.   They have lived there for almost thirty years; the number of years they have been together. 

Randy and Angela have a son, “Scott”, who attends college in another state.  Due to his father’s recent and rapid decline, he has come home to stay for the duration.  He wants to be there to support both of his parents.

 When I walked into their home to do the admission, Randy was in a deep sleep.  Due to his pain, Angela was giving his medication on the hour.  He had stopped eating and drinking for several days.  I knew his time was short. 

Angela was so realistic regarding her husband’s status and prognosis.  She was very practical about it all.  She said that sitting out on their front porch was so spiritual for her.  It gave her comfort.  In addition, she has several friends who live nearby; along with other extended family.  She has tremendous support which I know will help her cope after his death. 

I called her this morning as I found out two days ago that he quietly died.  Her being realistic, I wasn’t surprised at how she was coping.  She spoke so naturally about her emotions along with explaining her husband’s death.  I know she will have some heartbreaking moments, but also will be blessed with some beautiful memories.  She knows she can call hospice for bereavement support as needed at any time.

HER LIFE

 

They live out in the country

on forty acres of agricultural land.

The ambiance of nature enhanced by

fruit trees, goats and even two llamas.

 

They have lived there for almost three decades;

the length of time they’ve been together.

She copes by sitting out on the wooden front porch,

while allowing nature to embrace her soul.

 

He’s been sick for half of those years;

but still able to do quite a bit.

She always knew she would likely outlive him,

while still not wanting to face that day.

 

Their son came home from college;

to emotionally support his mother and his dad.

When I asked her how long she has been married;

I was so surprised when she happily said, “Yesterday”.

 

I called today to offer condolences and support

as he died two days ago, shortly after my visit.

She shared, “I am doing okay,

               but I have my moments.”

 

“I am less anxious and stressed

as he is no longer suffering.

I also have a lot of relief

as he passed very peacefully.”

 

She’s thought about this day for many years

but the reality of it all is so powerful and strong.

“I guess now I am living alone in this ranch house.

This is the first day of

               My New Life.”