BIRTHDAY PARTY

The hospice nurse and I went out to admit “Jake” to our hospice program. Two months ago, Jake was diagnosed with lung cancer that had spread to other parts of his body. Jake went through treatment but his decline continued.

Jake is married to his wife and has four children. One of his sons lives nearby; but his three other children, grandchildren and great grandchildren live all over the world. When the nurse and I walked into Jake’s home, there were about fifteen people around. It felt very chaotic and noisy, but only after a few moments one felt surrounded by their beautiful love.

Jake had been hospitalized due to his cancer and was being discharged home by ambulance. Jake arrived a few moments after we walked into his home. Jake had a huge smile on his face as was so pleased to be home. He had tremendous weakness and was totally dependent, but was so happy to be around his loving family.

Four days after our admission visit, Jake peacefully died at 4AM with his family at the bedside. I spoke with Jake’s wife, “Emily”, who shared the story about Jake’s birthday party and how it gave all of the family tremendous peace and comfort.

This is another example of how patient’s choose when it is their time to let go. It always gives family much comfort to know that the patient did things his or her way. Thank you Jake. You will be missed but know that your family's love will continue on forever.


BIRTHDAY PARTY
　
He was only diagnosed two months ago
and his decline has been swift.
He is now so weak and short of breath;
no longer able to walk around.

His spirit remains positive.
He embraces the goodness in his life.
His large and wonderful family
remain lovingly by his side.

It was his 80th birthday on Monday.
They threw a big party in his home.
Family from around the world came by
to celebrate his birthday in style.

He slept through most of the day
although did awake as family and friends came by.
He personally had a few moments with each;
expressing his appreciation; his final "Goodbye."

You know he held on to celebrate his birthday;
to personally reach out to all of them;
as in the wee hours of Tuesday morning
he peacefully and quietly let go.

It gives the family some comfort.
It gives the family some peace
knowing he had a great 80th birthday party.
But then, he too was preparing them
to lovingly say their final
          "Goodbye."