We opened two patients to hospice today. There were many coincidences between these two families. Both men were in their late eighties with a recent diagnosis of lung cancer. In addition, each of their wives suffered from dementia.
We were warmly welcomed into their homes. Being gracious hostesses, both wives kept offering us something to drink. They listened while we explained our hospice program and the supports that are available. They listened without questioning as had no conflicts with us being there. Both wives stated, "When my husband recovers...."
The children of each gentlemen were stressed by the double whammy of having both parents needing a lot of help. They were trying to create a successful plan to care for their parents. Fortunately one family has five supportive children while the other couple had three. It was beautiful to see as all of the children were supportive to their parents and to each other.
I know each family will fully look out for their father. They will have to make another plan for their mother once their father is gone; as life does continue on. Life doesn't stop for anyone. At that time, mom will need their full focus. Both families have a lot of support and a lot of love. All I could do was wish them well.
LIFE CONTINUES ON
A new terminal diagnosis.
Feeling overwhelmed; a little bit scared.
"Stop the world a minute.
I've got to get off."
Both of these men have lung cancer.
Both have been married over fifty years.
Both of their wives have dementia.
Life continues on.
How much do the women remember?
How much do they understand?
Each welcomed us into their home.
Do they truly know what hospice is all about?
Both spoke about their plans
when their spouses get better.
Both are devoted to their husbands
as love is what they know.
Now double duty for their kids
as both parents need their help.
Taking turns being available
as dad's decline is fast.
Dad may have just weeks
while mom has many years.
The children are now the parents
as life
continues on.
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